

He’d scribble his thoughts on a Post-It note or torn-out legal pad page, throw the notes in a file, then write some more on a napkin or takeout menu or a shirt cardboard. As my father had made me his literary executor, I began reading the private notes he’d made over the years. And I discovered that my feelings about him began to change, now that there was no longer a chance to speak frankly to each other. Tad: First, I wrote the version you saw, which was focused on my effort to get to know my father better before he died–to understand who he was and, in so doing, to know myself a little better. Tell us about the manuscript’s evolution. It was quite different from what you just ended up publishing. (Yes, we all get stuck in the music of our youth.)ĭeb: I read a draft of this book in 2020. Sometimes-no, often-with “Tracks of My Tears” playing on a speaker in the background. Really all I remember about that year was sitting at their dinner table either laughing or crying. I just created the Friday morning breakfast club at Xando-RIP-on the Upper West Side, where this plan was hatched.) And then, in 2013, when my own marriage collapsed, Tad and Amanda picked me up off the floor and took me and my then seven-year-old third child into the Hesser/Friend fold. (Our friend Jennifer Steinhauer gets most of that credit. I take partial credit for helping set him up with his wife, Food52 CEO Amanda Hesser, back in 2000. Tad was my Google before Google the silent and selfless editor of every first draft of my books the person I have always turned to in times of sadness, confusion, and need. Even though he hates when I tell the story of our meeting, because he says it makes him sound like a pompous know-it-all (which, he also adds, he probably was), I have loved learning from him from that night forward, and a lifelong friendship had begun: one that has sustained me now for nearly four decades. “And once again, there are still a lot more questions that need to be done to the family and friends.After some small talk, Tad, realizing just how clueless I was-I’d insisted that “Tracks of My Tears” was sung by the Temptations, not Smokey Robinson-proceeded to delve into the entire arc of Motown history, artist by artist, song by song. “So, if you ask me, I don’t believe they knew about this double life that Heuermann was living. Police chief Harrison, who assembled the multi-agency Gilgo Beach taskforce that identified Heuerman, has also told CNN that the reaction of Ellerup and her two children indicated they had no idea about Heuermann’s alleged crimes. In each case, the suspect’s wife and children were out of New York state at the time the killings occurred.Īccording to the investigators, DNA from Ellerup’s own hair found on tape used to bind one or more of the victims has been pivotal in connecting Heuermann to the crimes. George Duncan, a partner at Macedonio’s law firm, told the Guardian there would be no comment on Ellerup’s divorce petition.Ĭourt documents have said that the suspect separately committed the murders of Melissa Barthelemy, 24, Megan Waterman, 22, Amber Lynn Costello, 27, more than 13 years ago.

“They were home and the cops came in, and they were completely blindsided, and they told them what was going on,” he said. Her lawyer, Bob Macedonio, told the outlet last week that “her and her children’s lives have been completely turned upside-down,” adding: “this is all still a whirlwind.” Harrison also told Fox News on Wednesday that Ellerup and her children had expressed “shock, disappointment and disgust” over the allegations against Heuermann when they met with investigators.Īccording to Harrison, after investigators showed her certain pictures, Ellerup had remarked: “OK, it is what it is.” The Suffolk county police chief, Rodney Harrison, told CNN that Ellerup said she was “blindsided” when police showed up at their Massapequa Park home 40 miles east of midtown Manhattan at the exact moment last Thursday that Heuermann was arrested in Manhattan, and informed her that her husband had been apprehended on suspicion of three murders. Ellerup, originally from Iceland, has yet to make a public statement about her husband.
